Self Esteem...
whether at work, with friends,
or when meeting new people at a party or in a business environment,
we gravitate to positive individuals. We enjoy being with
people who have a smile on their face when they chat, and
folks who seem to know “who they are”.
A healthy level of
self esteem will take you a long way in your professional
and social life. Add a dose of enthusiasm to your interactions.
Get rid of those self-doubts. Allow yourself to truly believe
you can be a successful, powerful individual who is a leader
in your field.
Smile...
Sounds simple, right? It makes a huge
difference. A smile always lights up your face! Don’t you
hear it when the other person on the phone is smiling? Think
of how powerful a smile can be at the right time. Try two
experiments:
1) Look at your face in the mirror. Don’t
smile. Really look at yourself, not judging the way your hair
looks, or focusing on the flaws you obsess over, just look
at your face the way a stranger would. Now smile! I defy anyone
to say this didn’t instantly light up your face! Now remember
that, all the time, every day. Smile more when you enter a
room, meet new people, chat with associates, hang out with
friends.
2) Smile when you talk on the phone.
The listener will “hear” your smile! You will get more accomplished,
and people will respond to you in a more positive way.
Don’t be negative... Do not engage in negative thoughts.
Refrain from negative conversations when discussing experiences
you've had this week. Catch yourself when being negative and
change your thoughts and comments mid-sentence!
How do you
accomplish this? By being aware when your thoughts turn negative,
stopping those thoughts and training yourself to think about
yourself in a positive manner. And by listening to what you
are really saying every time you speak.
If you catch yourself
complaining about a customer or client, your boss or your
bottom line, instantly alter your external language – and
your internal language – to speak and think using only positive
messages.
Change your language... When attending meetings of professional
groups I belong to, I had always been honest when asked how
business was. Sometimes I’d say “good”, sometimes I’d say,
“okay but a little slow”. Thankfully, in the last couple of
years, I have been able to consistently and happily exclaim
“Great!”.
I began to notice that when I said “Great!”,
not merely speaking the word, but with a huge smile and a
resounding positive delivery, it always had an extremely positive
impact on the person who asked the question.
They looked very
happy for me, and engaged me in additional conversation instead
of moving on (as so many do after they ask the typical “how
are you” inquiry that people rarely want a genuine answer
to.) So what made such a difference between saying things
are “okay” and enthusiastically exclaiming that things are
“Great!”?
It’s the difference between simply saying “great”, and really
believing it! When people ask how you are, or how business
is, try exclaiming “Fantastic!” (or whatever phrase is appropriate
for your style.) You will find people looking at you with
more respect, and expressing more interest in hearing what
you have to say.
Visualize Success... In today’s business world, it may sound
lightweight to talk about visualizing your success. But in
my motivational presentations I present all over the country,
I encourage my audiences to visualize their success. I challenge
them, and challenge you today, to visualize every goal and
dream you have in the most detailed manner possible, as if
it’s already occurred.
Don’t “wish” for what you want. Don’t
“hope” it will happen. Visualize that it's already occured!
If you want to be rich someday, visualize your bank statement
daily with a huge balance printed on it. Instead of wishing
you will live in your dream home someday, visualize the layout,
colors, furnishings, floors, and finishing touches of your
dream home as if you are giving guests a tour.
So go out there into the world with a
more upbeat attitude, a positive outlook, and a sense of accomplishment.
Begin listening to yourself and others more carefully with
the mission of catching negative words, attitudes and thoughts.
You are a winner, and you can change these
elements to accomplish big things, become happier and more
successful, and promote a positive sense of self. So go out
there and smile!
Debbie Leifer is a Corporate Magician and Motivational Speaker
based in Atlanta, Georgia. Debbie customizes magical presentations
for meetings and conferences, attracts attendees to trade
show booths, and enhances cocktail parties and hospitality
suites. As a motivational speaker, she inspires corporate
audiences nationwide with customized, upbeat presentations
that incorporate magic to illustrate each motivational message.
To learn more call (770) 973-6820, email Debbie@DebbieLeifer.com,
or visit www.DebbieLeifer.com
